Pearl Sutton wrote:I'm not your lady either, but I'm interested in the way permaculture can let me make a world that makes sense to me. Normal reality is both WAY too easy and WAY too complex (depending on which part you are looking at.) Others seem to understand what humans want, but not how to function stack
You are brave to post for a partner, I fear the... emotional chaos? of doing so.
Good luck sir!
Pearl Sutton wrote:Oh, I am a BIG fan of being able to screen out minds easily with no risk, I have done the online dating thing before, and that part was great. There are a lot of things that I consider a VERY fast deal breaker that can be screened easily.
The emotional chaos is more the idea of saying "here is who I am!" (to one extent or another) and fearing getting either A) liars who will say whatever you want to hear or B) no response at all. Both of those are way too painful these days. I don't have the energy to watch my hopes get picked up and smashed back down again... Been there, done that, got the scars.
Maybe if I get to a stage where I'm more confident about who I am, less in fear of having my self stomped down, I'll try it again. Right now, too scary. I have things I have planned, things I'm doing, things I'm designing to fit MY wants and needs, and I don't care to end up in the traditional female backseat role (again) so until my feet are under me, it's MUCH less work to be alone.
And this probably should have all been a message to you, but someone else might find some value in it, so I apologize for thread derailing and retreat again
I hope you find your lady You seem like a neat guy with a lot to offer
I think part of my question that you have missed is "not all of us know the definition of aspie, especially as you use it" you are assuming we do... is it JUST the social stuff? How you think? How IS that? As far as *I* can see, it's a catch all word (like a bunch of my medical diagnoses) for "something along these lines or in this area don't work right, for no reason we can identify".
I've been discussing recently the prospects for growing runner beans (one of my favourite vegetables) in Portugal. Most people think this is hopeless, because high temperatures mean runner bean pods won't set. I wonder whether, with stronger sunlight, runner beans might grow well in annual beds in the dappled shade and lower temperatures of a forest garden, thus also providing another nitrogen fixer. Maybe we could breed a variety that might work.
but that still means several hundred of us scattered around, many of whom will eventually find their way here.
Kitty Leith wrote:I don't think I'm being prescriptive, just realistic.
“I think... if it is true that there are as many minds as there are heads, then there are as many kinds of love as there are hearts.”
--- Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina