Joseph Lofthouse wrote:
Dave: I'd like to suggest that it's not about the food at all. It's only about your boundaries. If I served you dirty motor oil in a soup bowl, you would not eat it, no matter how much peer pressure I applied. If I offered you a glass of rat-poison on ice, you would say no. So we have established that you have boundaries, and can enforce them. Now it's only a matter of enforcing them consistently. There are plenty of ways of doing that simply, "I don't like sugary things", "I'm already way over my carbohydrate limit for today", "I'm a picky eater". You don't have to explain, convince, shame, or evangelize. It's your body, you get to choose how you nurture it. It's really hard to get someone to put something in their mouth and swallow it if they are not cooperating.
Seems to be a general theme in your life to frequently be fussing about what others think about you or your choices. My strategy, is that I am not responsible for other people's thoughts. They can think anything they like. About me, or about anything else. My general assessment of the state of the world, is that people are way to self-absorbed to think about me at all.
Figure out how to love yourself, and your choices, and to really nurture yourself. Then what other people think won't matter at all.
What's the worst that could happen if you say no to your mother's suggestion that you eat her roundup-ready bean pie? Will she beat you? Will your father? Will she scream at you? Will she sulk for a week? More likely she will be proud, and think something like, "Wow, Dave is maturing and learning to set boundaries". Anybody that truly loves you will be thrilled that you are setting boundaries around your food intake. If someone is not thrilled about it, and attempts to coerce you into eating poison, then you might be better off without them as part of your life.