Joined: Feb 25, 2011
Location: NW Georgia
Okay, I am joking... Sort of. I am recently separated from my wife and in the midst of trying to plan and build a homestead on my own. I would like to have a partner in the effort at some point, but it seems hard to find permaculture minded people out in the world. Here on this forum are so many like minded individuals, some of whom may be single and interested in meeting people and exchanging ideas and growing things together. It did get your attention didn't it? I have read non-stop on this forum since I discovered it and just thought I would see what kind of reaction I would get if I posted something a bit off topic. In the best of spirit---Peace, Love and Happiness --K
keithbien wrote: Okay, I am joking... Sort of. I am recently separated from my wife and in the midst of trying to plan and build a homestead on my own. I would like to have a partner in the effort at some point, but it seems hard to find permaculture minded people out in the world. Here on this forum are so many like minded individuals, some of whom may be single and interested in meeting people and exchanging ideas and growing things together. It did get your attention didn't it? I have read non-stop on this forum since I discovered it and just thought I would see what kind of reaction I would get if I posted something a bit off topic. In the best of spirit---Peace, Love and Happiness --K
Why would you joke about that? It is serious!
I am also a permie and in the process of divorce.
We humans are tribal, social animals and don't fare well alone. And separating from a mate is agonizing. Why not create some invisible structures that enable those of us to share the same values to get together and form intimate relationships? I think it is very much on topic!
I was, at one time, a monk. I've done the celibacy thing. Unless there is a very specific life path that necessitates a life apart, I think good permaculture design involves a life partner at zone zero!
Joined: Feb 25, 2011
Location: NW Georgia
Wise words, indeed. And thanks shiva for the tip about green singles. I will check it out.--K
The best way I feel is to go to events and gatherings that will have like minded people. Im not saying over the internet to meet people is in any way wrong or bad, but going out to meet people face to face is just another option. Things like farmers markets, PDC's, classes on sustainable living, free lectures, outings in nature. I try to find as many events in my area (the free ones first ) that have to do with sustainable living and being in nature. A good way to meet people in general.
For example I will be going on an outing in a few weeks (Wild foraging hike) where I will most likely be around many like minded individuals who have some of the same goals and intentions in living as I do.
I agree that having a partner to share the experience of sustainable living is great.
I hear you! Especially true when you live and work in a remote area. Greensingles is a good site if you have the patience for internet dating.
Joined: May 08, 2011
Jungle Girl wrote: I hear you! Especially true when you live and work in a remote area. Greensingles is a good site if you have the patience for internet dating.
There are several "green singles" sites on the internet now. Green-passions.com and earthwisesingles.com are also out there.
I have mixed feelings. I know it's a way to meet those who share some values and are also seeking a mate. OTOH, it feels a little like ordering a life partner on Amazon.com. Doesn't feel like there is a lot of magic there. A process perhaps heavy on preconceptions, short on heart and soul.
I think the advice to get out and participate in activities which put you in proximity to others who enjoy the same things is wise and valuable. It leaves the door open for the serendipitous. Some times, that which the universe holds forth for us is wonderful and unexpected, and preconceptions only hide that gift from our view.
Joined: Jun 19, 2011
So eloquently stated. I wish internet dating were as easy as ordering books online! Usually on Amazon you can judge a book by its cover at least : ) It often seems like a waste of time to spend hours writing back and forth when in half an hour you could have most of the important information (if you pay attention). Unlike our urban counterparts, just meeting for coffee is not that easy. Anyway, there are so many more enriching things to do than "looking".
Joined: Feb 26, 2011
Location: Ontario North and South - right now, moving North Permanently soon. Timmins Cochrane areas
Not looking to date you.. but.. LOL
Me too getting divorced etc, I answered an add to help on someones property, they are nice folks. Perhaps post your own ad, who might show up? someone for you, if not someone to help out around the farm and offer friendship.
I'd have lunch with anyone who wanted to drive 7 days to get here. I might even buy (lol). Yes, help around the farm...I just posted a request for someone wanting to do a work trade. Food and accommodations in paradise for help . A good opportunity to exchange ideas. I used to have wwoofers coming down but it is so hit and miss. Most North Americans aren't used to manual labour...or the whole concept of barter.
Joined: Sep 27, 2011
Location: Norcross, GA
I've done my share of online dating. I originally balked at the idea because there was no way to ascertain physical chemistry with another person without actually meeting them in person.
But after doing it a few times, I've really come to appreciate it's efficiency. When you're having a 1st meeting with some one you met online, you've already cut through issues that can otherwise take months to figure out (i.e. life goals, religious background, kids, etc).
Joined: Sep 26, 2011
Location: Central Florida
My sister met her partner online about five years ago. After meeting they had a relationship for two years before getting married. They now have a beutiful daughter that I get to hang out with all the time.
I am a bit more extroverted online and am definately more honest as I find it easier to type things and think them through that I normally would not say in person. Not that I'm fake or anything I just tend to keep my mouth shut in person so that I dont put my foot in it! Many times I just want to tell certain people that they are not very clever and should reconsider their positions. That tends to drown the social atmosphere so instead of voicing my opinion I just keep my mouth shut! Online tis a different story. I can think through what I'm saying and figure out how to express ideas which otherwize would just remaign in my mind.
I have met a few people online, roomates, friends, and relationships. I recently met an aquaintance online but later realized hes a selfish extremist and am now thinking I wont bother meeting him in person although cooincidentaly we have ended up 2hrs away in the same state as opposed to the seven hour plane ride distance we were when we met.
Six of one and half a dozen of the other....
I say dont knock it until you have tried it and its better to get to know a person before you let them too close to you. At least that is how I feel. Going to something KenPeavey said in another discussion you would be lucky to find people with teeth in the area that I am in... not completely true but there is a huge ammount of roudup spraying, HUGE pick up driving, tobbacco chewing, smelly red necks in my area. Not that I have anything against them but I dont feel that I want a partner like that. So you see online is the best place for me to meet people.
Green singles just sent me an email saying that they made a link to me! Cool! They sent me an email saying that they like permies.com so they made a link and that I don't have to reciprocate. Which I think is really good of them.
So I wanna encourage you singles to pop out and visit them!