are you going to share what you did? 😊 i spent Sunday planting some celery from the store to see if it will regrow roots and new celery (experiment ) also worked on adding more hardware cloth to one of the sides. It was so exhausting i didn't get to put the 3 sides together. There was more to the process than it would seem. I had to do a couple of steps of taking collected rain water off the tarp and adding it to the garden, plus taking logs off the tarp. That covers the wood. Plus the stapler jammed. Then later gotta put all logs back on the tarp after covering it. Not a big job but many little repeated steps to it. Saw a little baby Robin out of the nest resting on a/c unit. Trying to learn to fly. Also saw the resident baby bunny who was born in the yard. He is getting bigger. So hard a full day. I have also started process of adding new 4x4 bed. They are slightly bigger than 4x4, due to how the blocks are made. But i call them 4x4 because of the size of the wood planks. I still have to dig the sod out and level the blocks. Possibly with sand. I will be adding 2 new 4x4 beds that are connected to the 8x8 keyhole bed. And that will complete that system of garden beds. Then next year, i will start upgrading the first garden i had into 4 2ft x 12ft which will probably be more like 2x14 due to the blocks i will use. The beauty of the blocks is i dont need to screw anything together, i take the blocks, lay them out like Legos, and place wood planks in their grooves formed in the blocks. And later i can take them apart and reform them if i want. I doubt i will do that unless I move from here. The blocks are not that cheap, but they make the process simple to haul wood home since i don't have a pickup truck. I can have shorter planks to haul and i just have to get more blocks.
DeeDee Anderson wrote:Good morning from Napoli, Italy. I hope that your weekend was good. Mine was pretty good with the exception of an argument with an Argentenian woman who has the emotional intelligence of a chimpanzee. That was pretty exhausting but I did a few cool things as well so it was a great weekend.
DeeDee Anderson wrote:Thanks for your responses, although incomplete. I apologize for the delayed message but I have had trouble accessing wifi at my new location/hotel. I'm in the countryside 45 minutes from Pisa. It's very beautiful here but I have not had wifi which has been a pain in the arse...not to mention I have been dealing with a very difficult, emotionally immature and high-strung girl who has been testing my patience since I arrived, making everything so complicated. And then I was able to go into town and get a new sim card and I read your messages. I enjoy learning about you and I see where we have common ideas and interests but I also notice where we have differences. Or maybe I'm just not in the right head space right now because of an argument that happened earlier between the young girl and I. I normally say nothing and just suffer in silence but I am pretty proud of myself for sticking up for myself earlier with her but it just reinforces that I am pretty sure I do not want negative energy or drama in my life. I cannot function well with high-strung, entitled, self-centered people like her. I am always willing to bend and be flexible for others but am no longer willing to invest too much in others who can't reciprocate. Time is an invaluable commodity. Where I decide to spend it is precious to me. I hope you are well.
DeeDee Anderson wrote:
How do you react to people who are unsettled with your messiness?
How do you handle those situations?
DeeDee Anderson wrote:
I'd like to hear more about what your homestead paradise looks like and where would you like it to be located? And what motivated you to do your massage business? I definitely could have helped assist. I am pursuing a degree in business management and administration online. I'm an INTJ personality so it's just something I naturally enjoy doing. I'm not pursuing wealth but basic needs/security. I charge my clients $27/hr. But it's only parttime work for now to help with my travel expenses. If you are ever interested in my services, let me know. ;) I'm basically balancing my time between school, consulting, volunteering and traveling this year. Have you traveled much? Where have you been? Where would you like to go?
DeeDee Anderson wrote:
Everyone is just looking for belonging/understanding. Im looking for my tribe too but Im still refining my interests but I prefer being with very few emotionally intelligent people who work great together as a small eco- egalitarian community. I sold/donated everything and am hoping to do a work-exchange with either one or a select few of others building something out of love, which means no one is oppressed, I'm allowed to be myself, and can learn/teach to evolve as a person: body, mind, spirit. I think self-defense/self preservation is the only justifiable reason to harm another living thing. I like systems and order but not while oppressing/separating others. I believe strongly in striving for internal peace/joy and helping others to reach it also. Most of all I'm just tired of being afraid and EXHAUSTED with trying to wear an armoured mask all of the damn time. The only person in my life that I can truly be vulnerable with is my son who is 18 and is my everything. I would love for him to live off grid with me but I understand he is just beginning his life and he has his own ambitions. But I'd like to find a place/people to call home where he can join me at anytime he is ready. I'm very simple. I dont need much. I think money is a prison. I think capitalism is a prison. Gender roles are a prison. I just want to live free, find my happiness, and live in love. It sounds like cliche hippie shit lol but that's what I am looking for. I've got a lot of scars and issues myself but I'm doing the work to heal and always open to learning to be better. I'm humble enough to know that I need guidance from others and cant do it by myself...as stubborn as I am sometimes. A lot of people think I'm "crazy" but I accept that I just dont fit in the ways people are accustomed to and I dont want to anymore. So, yeah, i am looking for my tribe too. :) What does your family think about your ambitions?
You kind of ignored/or didnt see my question about your personality type. It may sound like a silly request but I'd really like to learn where you fall on Carl Jung's spectrum. Emotional intelligence is becoming a more popular study and I think may play a key role in the next steps of social evolution.
DeeDee Anderson wrote:
Is that your official disclaimer? Lol Dude! If that's it, then I think you're ok. You sound like every man created, ever! Lol A lot of men seem to function that same way, in my experience...from my father, to my ex husband, to my son. And your hypothetical question is pretty easy for me to answer, because I have handled them all the same...horribly. lmao Most of my life I have communicated very poorly and so now I am really doing a lot of grunt work on improving my communication, with therapy, reading, courses and practice. In the past, in those types of situations, I would find myself holding it all in, with the exception of some passive aggressiveness, and just cleaning it all up until I say "this is enough" and giving an ultimatum. This is no longer how i want to communicate because 1. It doesnt work. 2. It makes me stressed and mentally depressed and just sick. And 3. There are so much better effective ways at having a relationship and working together. Honestly, i am unsettled with untidiness and disorganization because a messy environment affects me mentally. If my environment is organized, my thoughts are also organized and I'm more productive. If its disorganized I feel overwhelmed and if its dirty I feel depressed. Temporary messes are fine. Even I do that. For example, I hate laundry. Sometimes I will do laundry and keep clean clothes in a nice pile and just pull from that pile that week if I dont feel like hanging everything. Lol organized chaos is ok if I understand the system to it. But dirty, yeah, filth I cant do. But I am in the process of handling myself and situations better which is one of the reasons why I'm not in a relationship or seeking a relationship but only friendships for right now. But that is a great hypothetical question! :) As far as companionship goes, though, I am realizing that people of certain personality types tend to work better together than others because they compliment each other. The men in my life have all had a messiness to them, though, so it's not a red flag or turn off for me. I'm often the person cooking dinner and also cleaning up right after. I'm ok doing it as long as it's not expected or I'm unappreciated or disrespected. I'm just trying to learn how to better communicate myself when it gets overwhelming and to hopefully work with someone who will also consider me and that my personality type is not ok with untidiness all of the time and is willing to also make the effort to make me comfortable too because it's an equal partnership and my feelings matter.
I wont give you my disclaimer just yet or even on a public forum but trust me, I'm hard to deal with also. Lol Being messy is a cake walk in my world. Lol whether or not we can become best friends or not...possibly work together, commune together, or whatever is left to be said....but I am enjoying our chats so far so that's cool. :)
DeeDee Anderson wrote:Honestly, in an apocalyptic situation, I would probably die horribly...not because I couldn't survive on my own with very little, (I think I could learn to thrive on my own), but because some random person would happen upon me and I would be so damn naive that I would invite them in out of love and kindness and then they would murder me in my sleep and take all of my shit. LOL! I am just not so good with people. Maybe I'm exaggerating. LOL My resume? Hmmm, I don't have much experience in anything other than helping others, either by customer service, or being a secretary or assistant. When I was younger I actually wanted to be a missionary, God's faithful servant and just bring people to him, but I since left organized religion and am just trying to save myself...in the sense of putting the oxygen mask on first before saving anyone else. Anyway, I have a resume full of office administrative work that would do absolutely nothing for me off grid. The only thing really going for me is that I am intuitive, systematic, organized, resourceful and have enough sense to figure shit out naturally or by researching/experimenting on my own. I have experienced some things but they were all introductions/novice experiences really. This is why I am really trying to learn and experience more hands on.
In theory, I think that in the event of an involuntary grid down, I would escape from all people, less those in my small circle, because people seem to be the most dangerous and hazardous lol...I would first establish safety for myself, somewhere in dense forest but close enough to a coastline, by building something small but functional and strong to protect me; build tools to use; source food/water, start a garden; and then a security system/contingency plan in case of emergency. I want to learn how to use solar/wind/water powered systems to sustain; I have a growing list of alkaline foods/herbs that I wish to grow and eat. I have a growing list of tiny house constructions that I am considering. I've never been fortunate enough to take scouts or do a lot of camping. Honestly, bugs and critters freak me out. But I see the importance in those skills and want to learn. I've watched my father build/fix things most of my life. Everything he learned by trial/error. He never directly educated me on those things, because I don't think he even knew the proper terms himself and was too "traditional" to teach his girls these things, but I watched him and I admire him for being resourceful and self-motivated. My step-father is less sophisticated but he is just as resourceful. I think I'm just as intuitive, but I do like to research/educate myself on common knowledge and terms also. I don't hold the establishment of education in the highest esteem but I do respect the time and research that people have done over history to realize methods and systems that were more successful than others. I don't approve of the establishment exploiting people's findings in order to make a profit, but I still value the information.
I agree that everything is a valuable lesson, both the good and the bad. I look at life this way too. I've become more cynical because of my life experiences and people tell me I have a lot of "baggage". I really despise this saying. I think this saying is cliche and not well thought out because each and everything you learn, makes you who you are and choose to be, and you carry it with you always. What's NOT good, is carrying unresolved issues or not learning from the challenges and to keep repeating the same mistakes. But every experience, in my opinion, affects a person and how they connect with others, whether its with work experience, family, friends, relationships, or whatever.
Anyway, how are you today? Me? Today is my last day with my winemaker in Pisa. Tomorrow morning I catch a train to Naples. So from 9am-9pm I will be hopping on/off trains. My travel days are really my least favored thing about backpacking. I prefer getting to and settled in my new location and getting acclimated to the new area. I put a lot of planning into my travel days to make sure I am going to the right place, catching the right trains, giving myself enough time, carrying a 50 lb backpack on my back and pulling a 60 lb roll bag in tow. It's a great workout! lol But wifi is limited and I don't speak fluent Italian so I have to be well prepared for anything. These are the days my anxiety is at its worse. But what can I say, it's all a learning experience, like I said before.
Question: do you know your personality type? www.humanmetrics.com/personality
DeeDee Anderson wrote:You're my kind of people. :)
DeeDee Anderson wrote:It's OK. You don't have to like wine. I forgive you. :) I don't drink much either...its just a guilty pleasure I like to indulge in from time to time. My host winemaker speaks little English so I am learning more visually than anything...I've done hours of pruning and helped bottle batches of white wine. That's really about it, so far, but it has been a cool learning experience nonetheless. I'm always interested in learning something new and exercising my brain...now its time to start exercising my body more too. I'm not as healthy as I should be but I've been working hard on that recently. The last year I've been transitioning to whole-food, plant-based eating and being more active. So I am a total newbie but I'm motivated and excited to learn and make new friends along the way. If you had to write a resume about your experience in farming/permaculture, what would you list? What would be your absolute dire list of skills needed in order to survive "off grid"?
DeeDee Anderson wrote:I absolutely understand and respect your decision to take your time. Putting my email address on a public forum was a bit forward...at least for me. I'm all for chatting longer before taking things off of the site. When the time comes, we can video chat or call. :) I'm a bit shy, and really dont talk/video much but since I've been backpacking the last 2 months, it's gotten a bit lonely and some days I long for a little face-to-face conversation.