75 now, female, single. I am not anti-social in the least, I like people, I interact a lot when I do see them. I have chosen to live alone ever since I had the choice (18). I lived in the Unita Wilderness (Utah) for a long time when I was young. Back then, although it was not really legal, no one ever hassled you as long as you kept your site clean and paid the back country fees. Just my dog and I and that was legal too. At some point I decided to move back to California and I have a cabin in a rural part of the High Desert. Since I've had this particular piece of property (2006), less than five people have ever stepped on this property, and only for a few hours at most.
I go to town when I absolutely have to - probably twice a month maximum, to shop and pick up mail/packages. I may talk to the cashiers, or someone standing in line. Doesn't always happen, but I will often make the effort to strike up a short conversation because people in general seem lonely, agitated, distressed or angry and I feel they could use a little pep talk, something to give them more of a proper perspective of what life CAN be like, if they'd just cease with the tunnel vision. I don't preach, just mention something that might make them smile or mull over. If its really hot for instance, I might mention how Blessed we are that we aren't freezing to death in Minnesota right now. It gets them talking a little, gets them out of their shell, even if for only a few minutes. There is always something to be Grateful for, we might have to dig a little sometimes to find it, but it is always there to find if we care to stop feeling sorry for ourselves.
Why have I chosen this way of life? Well, first of all, I am very spiritually oriented. I can honestly say I've never felt lonely, not in my whole life, even as a kid. When I was very young I began to notice that on the whole society in general takes a negative view of life. A lot of people aren't happy people...a lot of people are always looking at the glass half empty instead of looking at it as half full and concentrating on filling it ALL full. I didn't find that negation productive. I felt they weren't adding to my life in any way, so why be around them?
Since the advent of the internet, I've talked to a lot of people. I might strike up a conversation on YouTube, mention something in the comments. I don't really do this for me....it isn't something I need for me.....I do it when I see an Opportunity to talk about something, show a new way at looking at a particular situation. Most times, it doesn't work, but I feel it my Responsibility to at least try. People seem lost, especially since the COVID situation. They strike out at others because they lack any emotional stability on their own part. I wasn't taught how to be like this....it is just something I've always been.
Those who would do well in this kind of living situation, those are the ones who feel comfortable in their own skin. They look to themselves for answers; not others. They feel confident in their abilities to tackle challenging situations....EVEN if they don't have the knowledge needed at the moment, they stay calm enough to wait, be Patient.....the answers always come if we care to approach this properly. The more we do this, the more confident we become. I can honestly say there isn't much I can't do here on this farm....there is always a way to get the job done. I think people who might want to try this way of life need to be honest with themselves.....if they in any appreciable amount feel like they need others to make them whole, then this way isn't probably for them. If you get scared easy, or are an anxious kind of personality, again...no.
I read a lot. Probably 4 books a week. But most of my time is spent in growing my food, taking care of maintenance, building something new.I cook all my food from scratch, so that takes a bit of time each day. Haven't had a TV in 25 years. I have chickens, ducks, goats, outside cats, a Pyrenees who is just as independent as me....she isn't an inside dog and when I go outside, she runs up, smiling and jumping, wants a pat or two and then departs. She is perfect for me.....and I am perfect for her. She wouldn't take well to baby talk and hugging.
Knowledge and Wisdom come with the years passing by. Being Peaceful is more important to me than listening to constant chattering about things that I don't think matter, or are not my business to be talking about.