Lot's of really big posts here that I don't have time to read at the moment, but to the OP I would say that your idea is not crazy, it's probably 10 years ahead of it's time in MO, which gives you time to get in now. See this article in the Smithsonian: http://www.smithsonianmag.com/innovation/how-farms-became-new-hot-suburb-180954956/?no-ist
There are people that want the lifestyle of the countryside mixed with similar neighbors for their families to live next to. Skip the gym membership, enjoy the simple pleasures of good food and community. It's a high priced option because of all the lifestyle selling you can do. In fact, I would point out that this was the original dream of the suburbs - a small, simple patch of countryside to raise a family in that isn't too far from modern life. To create a suburb in a permaculture way is exactly the kind of long term thinking the world is hungry for.