I agree with Abraham that often times seeking the fork is for retaliation, deflection, or defense. Could be conscious or subconscious, but either way it does nothing to address the actual issue being brought up. If there is an issue with the fork, then deal with it separately, not as ammunition in an attempt to delegitimize the initial complaint.
It's possible that both sides can concede that they aren't perfect. I don't believe one should need to achieve perfection before asking for improvement from another, though.