Orin Raichart wrote:I've learned that sometimes it is the social and other conditions around a person which is "the problem" and other times it is one's own self that is "the problem"....it is pretty easy to tell; if you have similar issues in a new place with strangers, that stuff is probably yours; if the issues disappear, that stuff belongs to the conditions you left behind. Also consider a plant: some plants like certain conditions and are awesome under those conditions and under other conditions, the plant looks pretty sad.
Orin Raichart wrote:As for what you want, it is possible to have conflicting desires which oppose each other. Sometimes conflicting desires are completely opposed to each other and sometimes there's just a little inner conflict. Sometimes it's just a matter of realizing we humans tend to look for conflict to be resolved and one already has every thing one wants. I think one has to prioritize one's values (or atleast one's wants and desires), in order to resolve such desire conflicts.