When it comes to homesteading your first year you do everything wrong. (I recently read this on-line, fb I think, and laughed). However, because I waited most of my adult life, 25 years, before finally acquiring a piece of land to work and homestead on I had already become a seasoned veteran. And I used my instincts and managed to get it right the first time (on some things). First and most difficult, refrain from making a plans that cannot live up to your dreams / vision when you finally acquire the actual property after the real estate deal has closed. (This holds true with travel as well.). Second, watch everything interact. Listen to it all too. Enjoy while waiting before diving in your massive farm construction projects. (of course doing some things which might be important to accomplish). Third, respect peoples space and they will respect yours, for the most part. I feel lucky that where I chose to relocate too, the people actually opened up enough to extend a connection to the community -in whatever state it currently was in. This is more often than not, a hurdle when moving to small towns among old farmers. They embrace change very slowly, if at all.
The main thing I am learning about growing my permaculture homestead in conjunction with the community in which I live is love heals AND time heals. Be patient, be reserved, and most importantly be passionate about what you are doing. An honor system vegetable stand is a wonderful way to warm up a community whom may or may not be frigid with old school ways.
Funny, what seems to have helped me in settling into the community in which I live better is buying a sparking new pick-up truck, and ATV -something in which I had initially had contention with. It seems as though this is something they relate too. It's reliable and communicates Americanism I suppose. Whatever works. Being a part of the volunteer fire department is more than I am able to muster at this time. However I am on the waiting list to serve as a board member of the local water district. I also attend the annual Electric Cooperative meetings. Slowly, I am gaining some semblance of acceptance in my area and beginning to form a sense of community which along with the glaciers near by are beginning o melt away fast.