I'm hoping to find someone who can be a friend first - a likeminded guy - and hopefully maybe have something more develop.
He's hard working, reliable, mature, intelligent, self motivated, ambitious and an out of the box thinker. He has goals in life, and is actively working towards achieving them. He's not an extremist and he appreciates independence in a woman.
Someone who is looking for an actual partner in crime, not just someone to do laundry and cook for him. He probably isn't a city guy, but someone who thrives being outside in the wild. And yes - it would be a massive bonus if he is interested in homesteading/permaculture/sustainability/etc.
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Rick Kruszewski wrote:In my experience- more, more, and more. Endless money and endless attention make MOST women very happy.
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Dale Hodgins wrote:So, this one is just for the women to say exactly what they want in a man, and out of a relationship.
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Hugo Morvan wrote:Wow Bethany that list gave me the giggles. Reminds me of this joke, hope you like jokes. A farmer walks through his field he hears a sqeaky voice go "Help,help!". He looks down where the sound came from, it was a gnome trapped under a branch. The farmer lifts up the branch and saves the gnomes life. The gnome says "Thank you, you saved my life, you may do a wish, anything you want". The farmer says, "I've never been to Europe, but i am afraid of flying i would like a bridge from Chewalah to Paris". The gnome sighs deeply and says" That's extremely difficult to achieve, don't you have another wish?" The farmer says "I am looking for a wife, i'd like a beautiful wife who is cheerful , has a good sense of humour and likes to work hard, always is in the mood for oh-la-la and doesn't like shopping". Gnome replies" What kind of lampposts would you have liked on your bridge,sir."
It just reminded me of that joke, the list of things people want in their partner. Fair enough, aim high, good luck!
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Rick Kruszewski wrote:In my experience- more, more, and more. Endless money and endless attention make MOST women very happy.
Just me and my kids, off griddin' it - follow along our shenanigans at our YouTube Uncle Dutch Farms.
Sonja Draven wrote:You know what love is and treasure it, but donāt give your love easily, nor on a whim. Youāre looking for an equal, someone to climb on your pedestal with you, roll around in the mud together, crawl out of the rut weāre stuck in.
You look at me - with laughter in your eyes at my dry wit, subtle humor, desire for my body and what we can do together, compassion for the things Iāve endured and admiration for my strength, love for me and appreciation for the friendship we share.
You have a body that shows you care for yourself and value my attraction for you, and youāre addiction and disease free. Even when sweaty and greasy and dirty, to me you smell divine. I drive you crazy, push your buttons, tease you to let go, forget where we are.
I trust you with who I really am and what I really want, and vice versa.
Youāre looking for me like Iām looking for you ā with hope mixed with skepticism - and a drive for self-improvement and reaching every goal and dream youāve set for yourself, not while youāre waiting for me but because itās who you are. Youāre frugal, financially careful, and yet splurge on those things you value.
You dance with me, maybe you sing with me (even if your voice sucks), you value fidelity, and I never fear you, view our possessions with an eye for how we would divide them up when it doesnāt work, when I canāt deal with your shit anymore.
We are the same in our commitment to us, trust, love, compassion, respect and honesty, yet different in other ways - enough to keep it interesting. Youāre weird and abnormal, zany and quirky in ways that are different and yet so adorable. You are passionate about life, your hobbies and interests, your friends, your honor.
I lose time daydreaming of you, remembering your touch, the way we make each other feel, the life we share together -Yet Iām grounded in the present, focused and strong, more than Iāve ever been, peaceful in the knowledge that itās right and even while we both know we are solitary on our individual paths we are on this journey together.
If you exist, youāre all these things.
But I suspect you donāt.
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In my experience- more, more, and more. Endless money and endless attention make MOST women very happy.
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Sonja Draven wrote:You know what love is and treasure it, but donāt give your love easily, nor on a whim. Youāre looking for an equal, someone to climb on your pedestal with you, roll around in the mud together, crawl out of the rut weāre stuck in.
You look at me - with laughter in your eyes at my dry wit, subtle humor, desire for my body and what we can do together, compassion for the things Iāve endured and admiration for my strength, love for me and appreciation for the friendship we share.
You have a body that shows you care for yourself and value my attraction for you, and youāre addiction and disease free. Even when sweaty and greasy and dirty, to me you smell divine. I drive you crazy, push your buttons, tease you to let go, forget where we are.
I trust you with who I really am and what I really want, and vice versa.
Youāre looking for me like Iām looking for you ā with hope mixed with skepticism - and a drive for self-improvement and reaching every goal and dream youāve set for yourself, not while youāre waiting for me but because itās who you are. Youāre frugal, financially careful, and yet splurge on those things you value.
You dance with me, maybe you sing with me (even if your voice sucks), you value fidelity, and I never fear you, view our possessions with an eye for how we would divide them up when it doesnāt work, when I canāt deal with your shit anymore.
We are the same in our commitment to us, trust, love, compassion, respect and honesty, yet different in other ways - enough to keep it interesting. Youāre weird and abnormal, zany and quirky in ways that are different and yet so adorable. You are passionate about life, your hobbies and interests, your friends, your honor.
I lose time daydreaming of you, remembering your touch, the way we make each other feel, the life we share together -Yet Iām grounded in the present, focused and strong, more than Iāve ever been, peaceful in the knowledge that itās right and even while we both know we are solitary on our individual paths we are on this journey together.
If you exist, youāre all these things.
But I suspect you donāt.
The wishbone never could replace the backbone.
Amit Ahuja wrote:Yeah, but if you don't have hope from anything, you live a better life....that's my side. Keeping hope disappoints, not today but somewhere tomorrow and it's a rule of life.
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Jennifer Richardson wrote:
...pretty sure Iām going to be single forever, but luckily I donāt mind.
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Austin Shackles wrote:Have to say the issues around toilet seat position really do puzzle me. If I approach the toilet and the seat is not how I want it, I put it how I do want it. It's really not hard. If you have a family with predominantly one gender, then I guess the seat will tend to stay a certain way unless there's a house rule that the *lid* should be shut except when the toilet is in use, in which case all bets are off.
This and other small issues can, as you say, gradually escalate until one day after 10 years you attack your partner with a meat cleaver while screaming about the toilet seat - but that only happens if you (both) let it get to that stage. What you have to do is communicate - if you feel strongly about something, discuss it before it becomes a massive issue 'cos it may well be that your other 'alf never even thought it would be a problem. It's a bit silly to curse something for years and eventually have a flaming row about it, and then your partner says "hey, if it's that important, why didn't you say something years ago?" because for them it was a neither here nor there thing that they weren't even thinking about.
Deb Stephens wrote:
You are making the assumption that the offended partner is suffering in silence (for years apparently) and that the "other half" will even listen to the complaint...
When something is so important to one partner and yet ignored by the other then the action becomes more than just an annoying habit, it is a display of passive-aggression. That changes the dynamic in the relationship quite a bit. It goes from two people who merely have irritating differences in their ordinary habits to two people locked in an endless struggle for control over something that should have been amicably worked out early on...
THAT is why I say it is always the little things that bring relationships to an end. It isn't the things themselves but the unspoken intent behind them--the suppressed feelings that emerge in the form of refusal to change an annoying habit merely because it annoys the one you WANT to annoy. The habit is beside the point when the relationship reaches this stage.
By the way, we haven't used a regular toilet for 27 years (we do the humanure compost-toilet bucket thing) so the seat up or down controversy was one we dealt with a loooong time ago. I only chose to mention the toilet seat issue because I happen to know it is a major pet peeve in many households.
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