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paul wheaton wrote:I think a good permaculture system would be that Jerry does what Jerry thinks is good. If his gardens are weak, he might get hungry. If his shelter is weak, he might get cold. If he doesn't create anything that brings in an income, then he cannot buy alternative solutions. I think he tried telling me that I was a dick, because his experience is that telling an authority that sort of thing often leads to getting candy.
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Penny Dumelie wrote:
Jerry is like bindweed. There might be a permaculture solution for him, but is it worth the headache to find one?
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Zach Muller wrote:I think Elle might be onto something. While I am unaware of that book mentioned, I was actually thinking about personal boundaries as I read this post. I have never been to the lab so the dynamics there are only observed through posts and descriptions. I do find that in most groups there are family type relationships that form, although often they are very subtle and unconscious.
Paul is the big kahuna, the power, the father especially for Jerry.
Paul has gone through great lengths and expenses to care for and supply stuff to the people who come to his lab, it is obvious that he sees potential in young permaculture grasshoppers and wants to give them the tools to succeed, in this case both literally and figuratively.
There is a concept called enmeshment which I think could a subtle force that will lead the Good ones to becoming jerry social workers or therapists or not being able to say no when he shows up for a mooched meal. It could also be responsible for Jerrie's disrespectful behavior in the first place.
Maintaining boundaries is an art, and sometimes a feat of self awareness.
One example that comes to mind is some animal owners I know. They keep chickens, but don't let them breed so each member of the flock is like a member of the family. No amount of energy is spared when one member is in need. In some people's eyes they are great animal keepers.
To me it is like they are enmeshed with their chickens, seems icky and repulsive. When I told them about my chicken keeping their face looked a little sour. I do not treat my chickens like family, I cull, I eat, for the health of the whole. My mo was just as sickening to them as theirs was to me.
With managing chickens it is easier to see, since you were not raised by chickens. When you are managing people it can be hard to see since you are one, you were raised by people, and the depth of interaction is so much more complex.
I think the ant village is headed toward a solution. By not feeding, gloving, spooning, housing, Jerry will be out in the cold if he puts in no effort. It's less like "we're all in this together" and more like "we are separate but nearby" if jerry disappears from his work then that's jerrys business. If he leaves his camp unattended and animals steal all his food then no one else goes hungry because no one was counting on him. It's his lesson at that point.
If someone wants to "help" jerry by compromising their boundaries then when he dips out and their systems are undeveloped, it is their lesson about where to devote their time and energy. it would be hard to leave another human being hungry and cold out in the wind, but in the end jerry would either move on, or learn the right lessons, without any csi Missoula.
On the other end of the spectrum if someone else, say Brutis, struggled and struggled day after day to get his living quarters built, and food systems in place but he just sucked and did not know what he was doing. it would be plain to see his devotion to work. Then if he was left out in the cold with no food Others might step up and say, " Gina is a great builder and she is building a house right now, I bet if you go help her you will learn a lot which will in turn help you build", "Sam has a huge crop of fruit to harvest, maybe if you go help you can learn how to plant and get to keep a few fruits too"
So instead of his labor being wasted and misguided, he helps Gina and Sam and learns how to work right. All three got help, Paul did not have to do anything except be nearby.
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D. Logan wrote:Paying people not in money, but in sustenance and tools.
Want to stay in a shelter provided for you? Do X amount of work on Pauls projects per day you want to stay. Want a meal? Do an hour of work well prior to the meal being cooked. Need a set of gloves to borrow? Do X time helping Paul, or XX time if you just want to own the pair outright. It becomes a Gapper ala Carte situation. They aren't quite Ants, but can transition over to one over time. Since work is done in advance of rewards, there is a clear motive offered to do that work, but at the same time, nothing is required.
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D. Logan wrote:Paying people not in money, but in sustenance and tools.
Want to stay in a shelter provided for you? Do X amount of work on Pauls projects per day you want to stay. Want a meal? Do an hour of work well prior to the meal being cooked. Need a set of gloves to borrow? Do X time helping Paul, or XX time if you just want to own the pair outright. It becomes a Gapper ala Carte situation. They aren't quite Ants, but can transition over to one over time. Since work is done in advance of rewards, there is a clear motive offered to do that work, but at the same time, nothing is required.
This is reminiscent of an independent 'Lab Currency' I proposed in another thread, wherein the Lab has a currency which is traded among residents for its value, and all of these 'Wheatonbucks' [better name pending] initially come from the Lab's staff for services [or USD] rendered. Trying to track those X hours of labor at Y value level is going to be a nightmare if it isn't boiled down into its own currency. [Hell cryptocurrency technology may even work for this, although I would hate to see the economy on the Lab require electronic devices.]
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Cheri Ryan wrote: Perhaps now it's time to search out someone with experience in dealing with a variety of people (perhaps a retired teacher). And then, it's time to practice the fine art of delegation and trust. No one always makes the perfect decision, 100% of the time, but a seasoned veteran of people and issues will come doggone close.
Rhys Firth wrote:Taking Jerry as an anology, if you had hens in your design as bug munchers and litter scratchers and egg producers, and one hen named Jerrietta flopped in dust bath and snoozed there waiting for a human feeder to deliver grains, and didn't scratch or eat bugs nor deliver eggs...
Would you keep her or would you eat her?
Now you can't eat Jerry without horrible horror movies being made of your exploits
When I worked at an inner city high school, there were many parents and students who would expend considerable time arguing, but very little time doing much of anything productive.
Paul, you simply cannot be everything to everybody!
I think a retired army/marine Sgt or navy Gunny would be the best fit
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paul wheaton wrote:I want to pretend that the new system is that Jerry is an ant. Jerry has his own plot and is his own boss. The ants on the surround plots are building food systems and shelter. If Jerry has a lot of personal days and goes into missoula a lot, he might accomplish less than the other ants. In time, he might come to the conclusion that the problem is not "the system" nor is it me.
paul wheaton wrote:I think that if we take the time to design a system that will work for Jerry, then we have designed a system that will work for damn near anybody.
And let's not forget, there are some very excellent people that show up and they decide to move on also. I wonder if we design a system for jerry, will have more of the naturally awesome people sticking around too.
Cheri Ryan wrote:If he simply doesn't want to get up, third strike can be the "out."
Exactly, nice and simple. Only catch is it still requires someone to be paying attention and managing these people...
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paul wheaton wrote:
I wonder if we design a system for jerry, will have more of the naturally awesome people sticking around too.
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paul wheaton wrote:I think that if we take the time to design a system that will work for jerry, then we have designed a system that will work for damn near anybody
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