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Is this common? Went off-grid, have now become a pariah :(

 
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This cuts the bone from the marrow. What has happened to you is GOOD for you! This experience will give you greater over(under)standing by leading by example and having to face the rejection that your family has thrown at you. Know that you are not alone, know that what you are doing is GOOD, and know that you are loved and supported by others in this life that believe in swimming upstream instead of floating down stream as a dead fish. Life is meant to be a struggle-effort-inertia against the rest, it started in the beginning when 10 Billion Sperm attempted to start life, but yours was the winner-champion-completion!

Begin with forgiving each offence-offender and walking tall, knowing that you are blessed to have a partner-(husband-lover)-parents-kids that love, respect, believe and support you. May this note find you encouraged today hoping for a wonderful sowing spring, gracious growing summer and contented harvesting fall.

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I admire what your doing. I myself am trying to figure out how to get away from the mortgage/rent trap. You are an inspiration!!
 
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Hi Bethany,

How are things now?
 
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John F Dean wrote:Hi Bethany,

How are things now?



Life sure changes a lot :) How do I even sum up?

I got divorced in 2015. My ex really was not, in practice, as on board with this life as he thought and ended up going in a completely opposite direction, so after two years I finally cut things off and let him go. There's a whole other thread on that topic here LOL!

Family relations are okay. I still don't entirely trust people except my parents, I think. I will be honest - a huge part of the issues that some family members had with me/us were actually due to my ex's, let's say, less than responsible behaviors and I got lumped in with that, and since the split I think relationships have gotten a little better. My parents also have consistently held their boundaries with others and reiterated that they are fully capable of helping me or anyone without being taken advantage of as if they are enfeebled, senile, or don't know what they are doing. Siblings dropped the issue. Maybe they just got used to things, I don't know... or maybe my parents finally told them to stfu 😂

I was off grid until last year when I brought power up and finished the house - it was a long road to finish it myself but ultimately I got it done. Then this year I took out an equity loan and paid a local guy to build an addition so now it's like I have a regular house which is pretty awesome, since the room I was in before is basically the pantry and we really have the space we need.

So at this point the dynamic is pretty good. I don't know that I'll ever really fully be able to trust some people again but I suppose that's life, isn't it?
 
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I find that life rarely travels in a straight line.  I suppose if it did it wouldn't be so interesting. But, sometimes I could use a little less excitement.
 
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Hi Bethany,

There is an omen here somewhere. I clicked on your Uncle Dutch link, and You Tube took me to "Custers Last Stand". Be careful, this is 2020.
 
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John F Dean wrote:I find that life rarely travels in a straight line.  I suppose if it did it wouldn't be so interesting. But, sometimes I could use a little less excitement.



LOL ain't that the truth! Ultimately though I just try to think of everything as a learning experience and take what I can from it.
 
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John F Dean wrote:Hi Bethany,

There is an omen here somewhere. I clicked on your Uncle Dutch link, and You Tube took me to "Custers Last Stand". Be careful, this is 2020.

That's super weird - it just took me to my channel page. But yeah... 2020.
 
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On my second attempt, it went were it was supposed to, but the first attempt took me to Custer .
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