How to balance ideals with reality

Andrew Tuanz wrote:Dear Brody,
Everyone above has tips for you. If I were you, I would spend time with my wife, understand what she wants.
Perhaps you spent too much time on the house you never wanted to sell and your work. If you are confident enough, do you dare to change? dare to redo everything for his wife?

Im willing to sell the house, move and redo everything for our life together. But I’m not the least bit interested in any of that unless she’s very confident that it’s necessary for our relationship. So long as theirs doubt as to whether or not it’s truly necessary, I dont want to uproot our life on the basis of hope. Although I would rather do that than lose her.

i am in awe at the level of support permies poured out on the op. <3
serious therapy.
life is hard and happiness isn't conditional.