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Hmm a cup of coffee in the morning delivered by my sweetie. Or a cup of tea. seeing my cat. Clean surfaces in the kitchen before I cook.
 
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Jordan Holland wrote:Staying away from people who cultivate drama.


Can I give this a hundred thumbs up?

Life is too short to let other people suck it out of you.  I've found that when you move away from those "friends" who are drama queens, they will simply move onto the next person whose life they can try to suck dry.

My non-negotiable: Please don't rapid-fire talk to me until I've had a cup of coffee.
 
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I started to put down my non-negotiables, then I realized that they were mostly manifestations of PTSD. Time alone at the end of my day, and a firearm in easy reach always. The dogs and grandkids have begun to let me ease up on the firearm. Makes me wonder how many of our non-negotiables are the result of adaptation to stress?
 
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I suspect this is a chicken or egg sort of thing. Certainly a missing nonnegotiable increases stress.   So, the question on the table is what happened to make these routines critical in our lives.   In my case, I think I have a clue.  I need 2 cups of coffee in the morn. 1 large cup wont do.  I suspect the first cup is total chill time.  The second cup is a signal that I had bettter get prepared to begin my day.
 
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Julie Harris wrote:

Jordan Holland wrote:Staying away from people who cultivate drama.


Can I give this a hundred thumbs up?

Life is too short to let other people suck it out of you.  I've found that when you move away from those "friends" who are drama queens, they will simply move onto the next person whose life they can try to suck dry.

My non-negotiable: Please don't rapid-fire talk to me until I've had a cup of coffee.



Been doing this most of my life.  When we had TV I would not watch shows that had to much "drama'.
 
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I noticed something about my morning  routine after reading an earlier post of mine. My routine is seasonal; it appears to be based on sunrise.  In the winter, I am up before daylight. So, I have my coffee before the day begins.  In the summer, I grab a fast cup ...see that the livestock gets fed...and then chill with the second cup.  I never noticed this before.
 
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