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38 y/o child-free woman seeking a partner who prefers a balance of urban/rural living

 
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Hey there! I'm Jessi. I'm 38 years old and currently dabbling in urban gardening in Atlanta, GA. The older I get, the more it annoys me how many resources I waste from day to day. I'm coming to terms with the limits of my location and thinking about some of my long-term goals like:

Growing as much of my own food as possible.
Using as many renewable resources as possible.

I like the idea of striking a balance between urban and rural living and am looking for a like-minded, male partner. I'd like to live as sustainably as possible without compromising the things that a city offers. So I could see settling down either inside or outside of a metro, but being close enough to enjoy the conveniences (airports, doctors, etc.) and entertainment a city offers. I really admire all the folks on here who live several hours away from a metro area, but I'm not interested in committing to that level of remote living.

Personality-wise, I tend to be chatty, silly, and playful. But I also love discussing and debating serious topics as well. I'm left on the political spectrum, agnostic on the religious spectrum, and sterilized on the fertility spectrum. I'm not one for old traditions, but I enjoy making new ones. =)

Some of my outdoor interests are:

Gardening - Composting - Rainwater collection - Building - Animals - Solar Cooking - Hiking - Swimming - Bike Riding - Picnics - Star Gazing

Some of my urban interests are:

Live music - Standup comedy - Volunteer work - Lectures

And some of my personal interests are:

Making lists...haha =) - Traveling (different cultures, yeah!) - Meditation - Mindful intimacy (think karma sutra, karezza, tantra) - Astronomy - Science - Politics - Psychology - Philosophy - Listening to podcasts/NPR/music/standup - Psychedelics/spirituality - DIY projects - Hydroponics/indoor gardening - Learning new languages or new skills/hobbies in general - Board and card games

I'm open to talking to anyone regardless of age or location at the moment, so don't be shy if you feel like we have common goals and interests. And if you made it this far, thanks for taking the time! =)




 
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Hey there, would you be interested in off grid living in Arizona Desert near Grand Canyon. M email akdog_1@yahoo.com
 
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I like the idea of striking a balance between urban and rural living and am looking for a like-minded, male partner. I'd like to live as sustainably as possible without compromising the things that a city offers. So I could see settling down either inside or outside of a metro, but being close enough to enjoy the conveniences (airports, doctors, etc.) and entertainment a city offers. I really admire all the folks on here who live several hours away from a metro area, but I'm not interested in committing to that level of remote living.



I have the same thoughts too. My ideal place to live is where there are good places to eat and cool things to do. What types of volunteer work do you enjoy?
 
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Hey Jessi, sounds like you are ready to relocate. They say; 'a change of environment creates new opportunities.  I live on the Big Island of Hawaii. We have only 2 cities to choose from.  Either Hilo (east side) or Kona (west side).  Kona is reminiscent of the California lifestyle always sunny, busy, extroverted, people. Hilo is the rainiest city in America, lush and green, with waterfalls within walking distance and quieter in general I think. It is culture and community that more floats my boat as opposed to rural or urban. There are like 11 different climatic zones on the Big Island and towns have different vibes to match. Cost of living is higher but then again it's a vacation destination with a year-round growing season.  Growing food in the tropics is a breeze. Everybody drinks rainwater from catchment systems and where I live there is no need to ever have water the garden. Have you ever tried ecstatic dance? It's quite the experience in a movement art form. Happens like 3 days a week around in the Puna area (SE).  Anyway, airfare is pretty cheap and you can probably find communities to volunteer at temp. as a WOOFER.  All the best.  In kind regards, JT
 
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Hey Jessi,

Christopher here... I'm located in North Central Mass.

Like you, I try to find comfort in the best of both worlds, rural and urban. I've begun establishing a home here that has very productive gardens. The lot is not huge but can provide more than enough food for multiple people. The home is somewhat larger but quite efficient. New state-of-the-art heat pumps with mini splits provide year-round comfort. The house also has a few extra bedrooms, bathrooms, and a nice fireplace in the den.

The outside has several raised beds for veggies although I do slip in some flowers. I like the pop and it contributes well to some pest control. Flower gardens are also rich with color and various varieties of plants, mostly perennials. This is a limited about of lawn and it is nicely wooded in the rear. Composting is in a Keyhole raised bed garden.

I'm open to an assortment of arrangements depending on the individual and their needs and desires. Of course, contributing to helping support the homestead both economically and labor would be the best balance. Relationship-wise, I practice ENM, but another person may practice what works for them. I am a straight cis male but am also open-minded regarding LBGT, BDSM, race, religion, etc. So long as no one pushes their agenda, everyone should remain happy.

I also like to travel in a small motorhome occasionally, ride motorcycles when time permits, and enjoy the great outdoors doing an assortment of activities. That doesn't mean someone has to accompany me nor does it prevent them from doing so. Often things shared are a tad more fun... Whether that involves working, playing, or pretty much anything else, at this point in my life enjoying what I am doing means the world to me.

If you are curious to learn more feel free to drop me a note or post it here. I check in every once in a while but not daily or sometimes weekly.

Regardless of where you land I wish you all the best!




Jessi Vasquez wrote:Hey there! I'm Jessi. I'm 38 years old and currently dabbling in urban gardening in Atlanta, GA. The older I get, the more it annoys me how many resources I waste from day to day. I'm coming to terms with the limits of my location and thinking about some of my long-term goals like:

Growing as much of my own food as possible.
Using as many renewable resources as possible.

I like the idea of striking a balance between urban and rural living and am looking for a like-minded, male partner. I'd like to live as sustainably as possible without compromising the things that a city offers. So I could see settling down either inside or outside of a metro, but being close enough to enjoy the conveniences (airports, doctors, etc.) and entertainment a city offers. I really admire all the folks on here who live several hours away from a metro area, but I'm not interested in committing to that level of remote living.

Personality-wise, I tend to be chatty, silly, and playful. But I also love discussing and debating serious topics as well. I'm left on the political spectrum, agnostic on the religious spectrum, and sterilized on the fertility spectrum. I'm not one for old traditions, but I enjoy making new ones. =)

Some of my outdoor interests are:

Gardening - Composting - Rainwater collection - Building - Animals - Solar Cooking - Hiking - Swimming - Bike Riding - Picnics - Star Gazing

Some of my urban interests are:

Live music - Standup comedy - Volunteer work - Lectures

And some of my personal interests are:

Making lists...haha =) - Traveling (different cultures, yeah!) - Meditation - Mindful intimacy (think karma sutra, karezza, tantra) - Astronomy - Science - Politics - Psychology - Philosophy - Listening to podcasts/NPR/music/standup - Psychedelics/spirituality - DIY projects - Hydroponics/indoor gardening - Learning new languages or new skills/hobbies in general - Board and card games

I'm open to talking to anyone regardless of age or location at the moment, so don't be shy if you feel like we have common goals and interests. And if you made it this far, thanks for taking the time! =)




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Hi Jessi

Hopefully all is well with you

I am significantly older but still feel childlike.  That can be good and bad

I am southwest of Houston so very hot and humid in the summer.  Good thing is you can grow food all year

Been a jack of many trades and enjoy learning except language.  My brain has issues with language.  So was once a licensed massage therapist and a research civil engineer

Let me know if you would like to share ideas

Cheers
Jeff
 
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Hi Jess,

I got a note but can't find it after the first glance. Something about a new battle cry...

What's cookin'? Did you want to talk?

Christopher
 
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Hi Jessica,
How would you feel about visiting a beautiful island on Lake Victoria, Uganda?
I run a volunteer camp, design and build innovative environmental infrastructure and other systems. Look after 15 kids, and a plethora of rescue animals. Build schools. And try to keep planning for the ultimate vision of creating a new type of society.
I either need a break, or some help. 😂
Anyway, big you would like to chat, let me know.
ecowarrior2022@gmail.com
 
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Hi,

Fellow Atlantan looking to make the escape to my new 40 acres in Northern Nevada. Would love to chat. Medic6180@yahoo.com. Drop me a line!

Patrick
 
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Hey Jessi I am 38 m who shares your interest in a balance of urban and rural living.  I am currently splitting time between Philadelphia PA and Atlantic county New Jersey. I am a permaculture nerd working towards building out a little rural cottage, a south Philly row home, and a woodlot permaculture garden. I work in tech, I like Philadelphia sports, and I would like to get to know you better. Shoot me a DM.
 
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Would you consider tropical Australia,  next to the great barrier reef, ancient rainforests, countless waterfalls and close to a little city with plenty of restaurants, hospitals, shops?
 
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Jessi,
I sent you a PM.
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message me if youd like to
 
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HiJessi, I'm Randy, love your way of thinking I'm in Southeast ohio on 18.75 acres living off grid but close to town, would love to talk with you
 
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The city is here about 30 minutes, or a bigger village With everything 16 minutes, for the rest i live at the edge of a small rurale Vellage de Dordogne Valley, varied forests and green farmland, very quiet friendly people beautiful nature to enjoy alone or with two? :) getting lost. First part food forest has been planted, fruit trees next year the vegetables will you come and plant them? Sheep are already busy creating space with poultry, everything for their own food supply. greatings Dirk
 
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Hey girl, still looking?  I'm 45, have some off-grid property in Tennessee and a small farm. Do you like goats?

Hit me up. If nothing else we could be friends. Who knows.

Phillip

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Hello there my name is Brian and I live in interior Alaska. If you are interested I own land and have been seeking a life partner to aid me on my journey throughout this life. Not interested in marriage I'll explain. My email bsmith011987@gmail.com ph#9072035505 feel free to contact me. Been dealing with life changes and I have no one to talk to. Need someone to explore the territory with and plant roots and trust with my life. No scams please I will not tolerate.
 
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If you ever your in buena Vista Colorado, join my start up community earthship.  I have the building finished but need to start working on the growing food aspect.  Would like to do a community style home, work exchange or just a safe place for travelers.  Look at my profile to facebook and other information.  Keith
 
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Hi Jessie, you are a beautiful woman! I am looking to find somebody for a respectful loving relationship, I am very interested to know more about you
 
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A group of us are looking to establish a commune in southern NM.  Many of your skills/interests/desires fit right in with where we're heading.  Let me know if you're interested in knowing more about our project.
 
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I'm on the right politically, but respectful of others opinions and belief systems. This includes religion to which I was raised Southern Baptist but quietly practice in solitude.

I played saxophone professionally as a studio musician for several years and later shifted gears into Karst Hydrology and then again into Biosciences. I work for myself now.

I own 7.1 acres of land in up state Ny. I grow a variety of berries (raspberries: black, red, gold) Low bush wild blueberries, sambuca, gooseberries, strawberries, veggies, and this starting log hives for bees. The bio diversity of the land ranges from flowered glade to bog to tree covered schist knoll. The geology on the land are s equally diverse including garnets, fluro raparite, albite, pyrite, massive quartz veins, and a host of other minerals.

The flora and fauna are as equally diverse. Currently I have found Indian Pipe (tincture is as strong or stronger than opium), Pink Lady Slippers (Protected species in Ny), New England Asters (Calmative), Vervain (Pain killer, muscle relaxer) Bone Set and Joe Pie weed, All Heal, and my favorite Meadowsweet (works like aspirin, taste like honeyed vanilla), Marsh Cud weed (great for back pain, especially sciatica) Witches purse. Mushrooms are vast, especially after a good rain on a warm afternoon. Lions Mane is one of my favorites as it increases mental abilities and awareness.
I make my own maple syrup and soon to be honey along with meade aged in oak barrels.

Fauna wise there are black bears, turkey, porcupines, wood peckers, owls, skunks, raccoons, deer, bobcat, coyotes, fishers, chipmunks, squirrels, snow shoe rabbits, grey hares, a plethora of birds, frogs, snapping turtles, muskrat, beaver, rock bass, and several other fish species. Everything flora and fauna can be found on the property throughout the year.

I have full on electricity through a solar system , back up generator, and wind generator. Running water but use a composting toilet system which supports the earth worms and their ability to provide high end dirt for the garden.

Chickens (Silkies, Australorps, Jersey Giants) are raised on site. Silkie eggs are really a healthier choice in eggs and I think they taste better.

Rainwater along with small fresh water surface stream and dry well catchment provides all the water to the cabin, animals and plants.

This year, along with bees (wild capture) I will be sourcing Mangalitsa pigs. A local dairy farmer provides freshly pasteurized milk in exchange for eggs.

Watertown is nearby and Syracuse just an hour away from Watertown. Canton and Potsdamn, Ny is nearby with it's multiple colleges and universities and hip downtown cultural scene.

Canada is less than 30 miles away with a nearby boarder crossing and a major Canadian city is less than 60 miles from my homestead.

Quality of life is high here. I am calm creative and a very optimistic soul. I believe in honest,  safe work makes the man and his home what it is. I have felled the trees, milled the trees (using an Alaskan Chainsaw Mill) to form the boards and have built the cabin from the ground up with my own two hands. All the creature comforts that we recognize as modern day living I have installed myself.

Basically, I am looking to share this work and it's bounty of the land with someone. Online, I am incredibly private but privately I open, silly, serious and full of hope and spirit.

Hopefully, I have peaked your interest and will possibly hear from you.

William.
 
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